Gain by Losing

Gain by Losing

At one point in the Gospel of Mark (chapter 10:35-45), James and John ask to sit at Jesus’ right hand or his left hand in his glory. They were asking for positions of power, privilege, and status. On the surface, their request seems a little arrogant or grasping – but deep down, it reveals the depths of the hope these men had to be a part of something great – something lasting – to have made something of their lives. And that is something I think we all want on one level or another. 

However, it is almost like they didn’t hear Jesus, or didn’t understand him when earlier he invited them to pick up their cross and follow him and in following to find not power or prestige or status, but something greater…

I remember years ago at a church I was serving, a young doctor from our congregation came by to see me. He said, “You know Joe, I’ve achieved every goal I ever set for myself. I have a home on the golf course, a thriving practice, a beautiful wife, healthy kids, and more than enough… So why is it that I still feel mostly empty inside?”

On a personal note, one of the things I enjoy most in life is surfing. Being out on the water in God’s creation gives me a sense of renewal and joy. But I have also found that surfing alone is not enough to give life meaning or depth or purpose. Surfing alone is not enough when those difficult moments in life come.

Sometimes people will tell me, “I worship God out in nature. I worship God while I’m on the water, or hiking in the mountains, or walking in the woods.” And I get it. I sense God’s presence in a very deep way in the midst of creation. But the times when I’ve grown most in my life, the times when I have felt most fulfilled, and times when I’ve experienced Christ’s presence in the most profound sense, have not been in moments of achievement, not necessarily in moments out in the beauty of creation, nor in moments of sheer enjoyment. No, it has been in moments when I’ve surrendered something, given something, or done something for someone else.

Maybe that’s what Jesus meant, at least in part, when he said: “For those who want to save their life will lose it, and those who lose their life for my sake will find it…” (Mark 8:34-37) 

Let us pray: We thank you, gracious God, for the desire to do well and to make something of our lives. We do humbly ask that you would meet us in our achievements, meet us in our enjoyment of life, and meet us even in the midst of our everyday tasks. And all along the way, Lord, help us not to cling too tightly, to surrender easily to you, and to give freely to those in need; in Jesus’ name. Amen.

Crown of God’s Creation

Crown of God’s Creation

Today’s message was written by my friend Rev. Roger Kunkel, founder of Dial Hope.

One of the greatest truths of the Bible is … We – you and I – are made in the image of God. Talk about a miracle! God made cats and dogs, hummingbirds, red cardinals, squirrels, elephants, giraffes, pelicans, dolphins, and the duck-billed platypus. God made the trees, the flowers, and the skies. God made all of it and said, “That’s good! Now, that’s good!” And to cap it all off, God said, “Now, for the masterpiece: I am going to create something like myself!” And God made you! You see, it is a sin for us to say, “Well, I’m only human.” If you want to see one of God’s miracles, don’t gather pine cones, don’t look at the Milky Way, don’t capture a squirrel, don’t find a picture of a trout stream, just look at the person next to you. There is God’s miracle! There is the crown of God’s creation! 

Let us pray: Creator God, we marvel at your small wonders and your overarching grandeur. We crouch down to examine a centipede and we stand on a mountaintop to try to take in the Milky Way. We listen to the tiny cry of a newborn kitten and we cringe in the face of the roar of the thunderstorm. We are small indeed in the scheme of the universe, but we are grateful that you have made us in your image. When we are weary, give us energy. When we are sad, give us comfort. For all those who are suffering loss, who wonder what will happen next, we pray that you will walk before them and enable us to be companions along the way. Now “raise us up on eagle’s wings, bear us on the breath of dawn, make us to shine like the sun, and hold us in the palm of your hand.” (On Eagles Wings, based on Psalm 91). We ask this in Jesus’ name, the friend of all. Amen. 

Our Refuge and Fortress

Our Refuge and Fortress

Today let me say how grateful we are to those who make gifts to the Dial Hope Foundation that enable this ministry to touch so many. Your generous support is a real Godsend.

Some of you may remember Jimmy Stewart. For a time he was one of Hollywood’s most loved and respected actors. By all accounts, Stewart’s character and integrity were influenced by his parents. He once wrote of his father’s wise advice to him before he went off to fight in World War II. In a letter, Alex Stewart wrote, “My dear Jim boy, soon after you read this letter, you will be on your way to the worst sort of danger . . . I am banking on the enclosed copy of the 91st Psalm. The thing that takes the place of fear and worry is the promise of these words . . . I can say no more . . . I love you more than I can tell you. Dad.” 

Psalm 91 reads in part:

You who live in the shelter of the Most High, who abide in the shadow of the Almighty, will say to the Lord, “My refuge and my fortress; my God in whom I trust… Those who love me, I will deliver… When they call to me, I will answer them; I will be with them in trouble…”

Trust is the antidote to worry and fear. No doubt we live in a troubled world. The issues we face are complex. But, God has promised to be with us no matter what the future holds. God is our refuge and our fortress. No matter what burdens you may be carrying; no matter what sort of danger you may be facing, may you take these words to heart.

Trust God.

Let us pray: Loving and gracious God, We pray today, especially for those who are in the midst of the real danger. We pray for your protection, mercy, and deliverance. Grant courage and hope to those who need it most today. And we pray that you would hasten the day when wars will cease and your peace reign. May that peace reign even now in our hearts. Amen.

The Gift of Community

The Gift of Community

I love the story about a group of Americans who were on a bus tour in Rome. Their first stop was a basilica in a piazza which was surrounded by several lanes of relentless Roman traffic. After they were all safely dropped off, the group climbed the steps for a quick tour of the church. After which, they spread out to re-board the bus, which was parked across the street, many of them darting out in front of oncoming traffic. Their frantic guide shouted for the group to stay together, but they seemed to ignore him. Out of desperation, he shouted, “If you cross one by one, they’ll hit you one by one. But if you cross together, they’ll think you will hurt the car!” 

Sticking together has its benefits, doesn’t it?  

In the book of Ecclesiastes chapter 4, we read this wisdom:

Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their toil.  For if they fall, one will lift up the other; but woe to one who is alone and falls and does not have another to help… And though one might prevail against another, two will withstand one. A threefold cord is not quickly broken.

This is why friendship and community are so important. We all need other people in our lives; people who love us as we are but who will also challenge us to grow; people who will pick us up when we are down; people who will pray for us and with us; people who will give and love and serve alongside us.

Cultivating that friendship and community is not easy. Even a church community can at times be difficult. However, the effort itself is a worthy endeavor. 

There is an old African proverb: If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.

Let us pray: We remember Lord that you said, “It is not good for us to be alone.” Grant us the courage and strength and grace we need so that we can give of ourselves and connect deeply with others. And as we give of ourselves, may we notice how much we are receiving. Amen

Chasing the Rabbit

Chasing the Rabbit

The great preacher and scholar Fred Craddock once told about visiting one of his students after graduation. This former student was married and had young children in the house. Before dinner, Fred watched the kids roll around on the floor while playing with the family dog – a huge sleek greyhound. The father told him, “That’s a full-blooded greyhound there. He once raced professionally down in Florida. Then we got him. Great dog with the kids, that Greyhound.” 

Later in the evening, after the parents excused themselves to put the children to bed, Fred sat in the living room alone with the dog. As he looked over at the dog, his imagination got the better of him, and he swears the dog turned to him and asked, “This your first visit to Connecticut?”

Fred answered, “No, I went to school up here a long time ago.”

“Well, I guess you heard. I came up here from Miami,” said the greyhound.

“Oh, yeah, you retired?” Fred asked.

“No, is that what they told you?” replied the greyhound. “No, no, I didn’t retire. I tell you, I spent 10 years as a professional racing greyhound. That means 10 years of running around that track day after day, seven days a week, with others chasing that rabbit. Well, one day, I got up close; I got a good look at that rabbit. It was a fake! I had spent my whole life chasing a fake rabbit! Hey, I didn’t retire; I quit!” 

Sometimes in life, we find ourselves chasing a rabbit, don’t we? We think that there is something out there that is going to make our life happier, better, richer. Sometimes it is more money, a better job, a bigger house, a nicer car, a new location, or any other number of things. But the truth is that even when attained, we find that the satisfaction is short-lived, and it doesn’t ultimately fulfill. 

There is an old and wise saying, “Happiness is found in being grateful for what you have.”

The apostle Paul wrote, “I know what it is to have little, and I know what it is to have plenty. In any and all circumstances I have learned the secret of being well-fed and of going hungry, of having plenty, and of being in need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

Let us pray: Loving God, help us let go of any anxiety we feel around needing a certain outcome, or something newer, or something more. Grant us a deep sense of peace with who we are and what we have right here, right now. We ask in Jesus’ name. Amen.

That Our Joy Would be Complete

That Our Joy Would be Complete

A mom overheard her six-year-old son praying, “Lord, don’t worry about making me a better boy. I’m having a great time just like I am.”  

Of course, she had to laugh. 

The boy’s prayer is funny. However, in life, most of us have found that it is not the places that bring deep joy that we need God’s help turning away from. Jesus said he came so that our joy would be complete. No, it is the places in our life that feel mostly dead that we need help with. When we deal with the dead places, our joy only intensifies. 

During this season of Lent, it’s worth asking the question: Are there things in my life that are dragging me down, taking a toll on my energy, on my faith, or on my relationships? Are there things that are keeping me from living more fully? 

A verse that has been on my heart lately is from Mark 8:34-37. Jesus said, “For those who want to save their life will lose it, and those who lose their life for my sake will find it…”

May God grant us the strength and courage to ask for help if we need it, and to lose, to let go, and surrender so that we might make room for true abundant life.

Let us pray: God of Hope, thank you for the gift of life. Thank you for loving us just as we are – and for loving us so much that you want us to stretch our faith and grow as human beings. Show us those places in our lives that need to be raised to new life. Fill us with your grace, mercy, and peace so that we would have the strength to let go, to surrender, so that we can begin again. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

The Rings of Memory

The Rings of Memory

In Psalm 40 (1-3) we read these words of hope:

I waited patiently for the Lord;
    he inclined to me and heard my cry.

 He drew me up from the desolate pit,
    out of the miry bog,
 and set my feet upon a rock,
    making my steps secure.

He put a new song in my mouth,
    a song of praise to our God.

This psalm reflects a person who had been in lows of human despair and heartache. He tells us he prayed for help and he cried out to the Lord. And God heard and delivered him… And as he reflects back on his life, he feels compelled to give thanks and praise… 

In his book, Walking in Wonder, (p.151) the Irish poet and philosopher John O’Donohue writes this: 

“In a strange way, nothing is ever lost or forgotten; everything that befalls us remains within us…. The image in nature that is really profound in relation to that is the tree; all the rings of memory enfold all the years of growing, blossoming, dying, and enfold all the elements of experience. In a similar way, within the clay part of each soul, the rings of memory are there, and you can find them.”

As I mentioned last week, it is true that a lot of the experiences that we have in the world are torn, broken, or hard… But what I’ve come to see is that we begin the process of healing what is hurting, torn, and broken within us, when we visit those places with compassion and with eyes of faith.

This is not something that can be done in the moment. It is not something that can be done in the midst of the pain. Sometimes only years later, looking back; perhaps asking a different set of questions…

I can’t help but think that is exactly what the psalmist was doing when he wrote this psalm, that he had harvested the memories of a bitter time… he was able to see something beyond the pain and heartache… that there was yet beauty.

As you reflect back on your life, may you do so with a heart of compassion and eyes of faith. And may you see that even amidst the heartache and loss, there is also great love and grace.

Let us pray: Open our hearts and our eyes, O God, to glimpse your presence all throughout the journey of life; in Christ, we live and pray. Amen.

Nothing Like You ever Found

Nothing Like You ever Found

In his writing, A Letter on the Contemplative Life, Thomas Merton offers words of encouragement from those who have given their lives to prayer and contemplation. He remarks:

“Nothing can change God’s love for me, since my very existence is the sign that God loves me and the presence of his love creates and sustains me….” 

“The message of hope the contemplative offers you, then, brother, is not that you need to find your way through the jungle of language and problems that today surround God; but that whether you understand or not, God loves you, is present to you, lives in you, dwells in you, calls you, saves you, and offers you an understanding and light which are like nothing you ever found in books or heard in sermons.”

Merton further encourages us in our own lives of prayer, writing that if we “dare to penetrate our own silence and dare to advance without fear into the solitude of our own hearts… then (we) will truly recover the light and the capacity to understand what is beyond words and beyond explanations…”

It is hard to sit in silence to listen for God’s voice. But those who make a practice of it find a centering and grounding that is noticeable and compelling. If you decide to try it, start small, one to two minutes each morning. Notice your breath. Notice your own presence. Remember that God’s Spirit is in you and around you. After a few weeks, slowly add time to the silence. Build from there. 

Let us pray: God of Grace, we do want to be the kind of people who live a centered, balanced life. We long for your healing, for your guidance, and for your love. Help us carve out time for you. We ask in Jesus’ name. Amen. 

Arm in Arm (He Cares for You)

Arm in Arm (He Cares for You)

Friend of Dial Hope, do you sometimes feel like your problems are so overwhelming that you can barely keep your head above water? In the Bible, God tells you to cast “all your care upon him,” knowing he cares for you. (1 Peter 5:7) 

One of the most dramatic examples in the Bible of casting yourself upon God is Peter’s attempt to walk on water. It was liquid pavement beneath his feet. When Jesus bid Peter to come to him, Peter quickly stepped out of the boat and, with his eyes on the Lord, he began to walk. But then he looked around at the heavy seas. Terrified, he began to sink. “Save me, Lord!” he shouted. Immediately, Jesus was beside Peter. And, arm in arm, they walked on the water to the boat. Like Peter, if you get your eyes off your source and onto your impossible situation, you’re sunk. But, if you keep your eyes on Jesus and walk arm in arm with him, you’ll be safe…because Jesus specializes in meeting human needs. Whatever is over your head in the way of problems is already under his feet. It’s in his control! Remember: “Cast all your anxiety, your care on him, because he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7) 

Let us pray: God of love, who came into the world clothed in our garment of flesh and who willingly gave yourself to the cross, clothe us in your Spirit that persons will recognize you in us and receive your great gift of unconditional love and amazing grace. We remember today and this week the men and women serving our country in Afghanistan and Iraq. Surround them with your presence and give them Christ-confidence. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Because God Loves Us…

Because God Loves Us…

Many years ago now, I remember the youth pastor at First Christian of Neptune Beach sharing the following Call to Worship:

Because God loves me, He is slow to lose patience with me.

Because God loves me, He takes the circumstances of my life and uses them in a constructive way for my growth.

Because God loves me, He does not keep score of all my sins and then beat me over the head with them whenever He gets the chance.

Because God loves me, He keeps on working patiently with me, even when I feel like giving up and can’t see why He doesn’t give up on me, too.

Because God loves me, He keeps on trusting me when at times I don’t even trust myself.

Because God loves me, He never forsakes me… He stands with me when I have reached the rock bottom of despair.

(By Dick Dickinson, Inter Community Counseling Center, Long Beach, CA)

For all these things, may we give thanks and praise. And may we respond with our very lives.

Let us pray: Loving God you are patient. You are kind. You are not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. You do not insist on your own way. You do not rejoice in wrongdoing but rejoice in truth. Thank you for showing us what love is like. Amen.