So I Love You

So I Love You

In the Gospel of John (15:9), Jesus said, “As the Father has loved me, so I have loved you; abide in my love.”

Think about that. Think about the love a parent has for a child.

Yesterday was Father’s Day. If you’re a father, what is your love like for your child? If your child is hurting, you hurt. If your child is in danger, you protect her. If your child messes up—and she’s still young—you may discipline her, you may correct her, but you would never stop loving her.

As a parent, if I thought it was good for them, I would do anything for my daughters. Anything. I would gladly give my life.

This is the kind of love Christ has for you—fierce, unconditional, willing to lay down his life… for you.

“As the Father loves me, so I love you…”

Jesus goes on to say, “Abide in my love.” Abide in it. Dwell in it… tap into it… draw strength and nourishment from it.

Today, I pray that you would know Christ’s love for you in the very deepest part of your being. May you live and give out of the abundance of that deep well. May his love, grace, and peace be gifts that you have to share with a world desperately in need.

Let us pray:
We thank you, O God, for fathers and for all who have loved us with a fierce, unconditional, and sacrificial love. We thank you also for your love for us in Christ—a love that knows no bounds. May that love fill us to overflowing. We ask in Jesus’ name. Amen.

When Will We Ever Learn

When Will We Ever Learn

Today’s message was written by my friend, Rev. Roger Kunkel, founder of Dial Hope.

There is a strange sentence in one of the Psalms: “I will keep a muzzle on my mouth” (Psalm 39:1). These are the words of a man sorely tempted to spread gloom and despair and discouragement. Yet he held himself in check, knowing there was enough pessimism around, that he should rally the courage of those who felt down and out. That’s good advice. The world is longing for words of assurance and encouragement. When will we ever learn? People don’t want to be put down; they are crying out to be lifted up. The choice is ours; we can encourage, or we can discourage. 

Isn’t it sad that many people think they are divinely ordained to point out all the bad things, show us all the problems, underscore all the negative? Isn’t it tragic that some choose to be gloom spreaders rather than uplifters? It is so much more fun to lift people up than to tear them down. Each one of us has the power to make others feel better or worse. And, making others feel better, generally makes us feel better. 

One of the great personalities of the early church was Barnabas, which means “son of encouragement.” He was an encourager. He put flesh on the verse, “Therefore encourage one another and build up each other” (1Thessalonians 5:11). Simply put, we need to be people who listen, who care, who affirm, who help and support one another. The choice is ours. We can encourage or discourage. 

Let us pray: God of love, forgive us for marching to the beat of drummers other than you. May we resolve today to get our lives back with your plan and purposes. Transform our gloom, despair, discouragement, and negative/mean spirit into positive encouragement and affirmation. Remind us to gossip the Gospel of good news and joy and hope because of Jesus Christ. Now may God surprise you with grace in at least three or four places where you never thought to look for it. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

In Trying Times

In Trying Times

In the book of Micah, the prophet describes the sad state of affairs in the world around him. The faithful are nowhere to be found. Injustice and corruption reign. Families are falling apart at the seams.

Despite all this, in verse 7 he says:
“As for me, I will look to the Lord, I will wait for the God of my salvation; my God will hear me.”

So often, we find ourselves surrounded by darkness. We see hungry children in our communities. We hear about violence and injustice. We worry about our jobs, our parents, or our friends.

In his own life, the prophet Micah didn’t ignore the issues or pretend they weren’t real. No—he named them. He lamented. And then he held fast to hope.

In a Wednesday night study, our small group was encouraged to share with God in prayer exactly what was on our hearts. We were given the instructions to be real, to be vulnerable. It is true that God already knows what we’re facing. God already knows what we’re going through. However, something powerful happens to us when we are able to speak our lament, to name our prayer, to open our hearts.

In the New Testament, James reminds us:
“Draw near to the Lord, and he will draw near to you.”

Let us pray: God of grace, we all know the feelings of anxiety and stress. Often we feel the pain of the world around us. It is part of our shared humanity. I pray today especially for those who need you near. Give each of us the courage to face—and even to name—our fears. In spite of the darkness, help us to trust you. We ask in Jesus’ name. Amen.

What We Give…

What We Give…

There’s an old apocryphal story about a little boy who was touring the Rocky Mountains with his mother. The boy had been behaving badly, and his mother laid down the law and punished him. In response, he ran to the edge of a cliff and shouted, “I hate you! I hate you! I hate you!” Back came an echo: “Hate you! Hate you! Hate you!”

Caught off guard, the boy was frightened. He ran back to his mother and sobbed, “There’s a man over there who hates me.” The mother took her son by the hand and led him back to the edge of the cliff.

“Now,” she said, “this time call out, I love you! I love you! I love you!” As the boy obeyed, the sweet, clear words echoed back: “Love you! Love you! Love you!”

“What we give,” said the wise mother, “is exactly what we receive.”

It’s true, isn’t it? Newton’s third law of physics states, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.”

The Apostle Paul put it this way: “…you reap what you sow.”

There is no doubt: when we sow seeds of kindness, generosity, and love, they grow. They multiply. And in due time, we receive them back in kind.

Let us pray: Loving God, we ask you today to remove from us any seeds of bitterness, anger, or hate. Replace them with your mercy and love. And then, as we are so filled, help us to share that same grace in word and deed with each person we encounter today. And may we find that it is in giving that we receive. Amen.

Christ is There

Christ is There

One summer when I was in seminary, I served as a chaplain to the homeless. I was working in a ministry housed in the basement of an old Episcopal church in downtown Atlanta, and I remember being struck by a mural painted by one of the homeless guests at the shelter.

It was a depiction of life on the streets. Seven characters were hanging out in a party-like atmosphere. There was an intellectual wearing glasses, but his tie was crooked, his shirt untucked, and a bottle of booze in his hand. Others were dirty and dressed in tattered clothes. In the painting, you could see their sickness and despair. Broken bottles littered the ground, and the sky was black and ominous, flashing with lightning. In the foreground was a sign that read:

“Warning! Our Creator has issued a severe storm alert for non-recovering addicts. Effects will be disease, famine, and death! Take shelter now in the name of Jesus!”

I found myself staring at this painting for a long time—maybe because it represented so vividly the life I witnessed on the streets each day. And the question that kept coming to my mind was: Where is Jesus in the midst of all this hunger, heartache, and human suffering?

As I reflected, part of the answer became clear. Jesus was there—suffering within the people we sought to serve. But he was also present in the open hearts of the shelter volunteers. Jesus was there in the care and expertise of the drug counselors. He was there in the hands of those who served the food, and in the love and financial gifts that kept the shelter going. And Jesus was there—reaching out in love to both those who were serving and those being served.

Let us pray: Open our eyes to see the need in the world around us. Open our hearts to break at the things that break your heart. And then, Lord, give us the courage to reach out in your name and make a difference. We pray in the name of the Risen Christ. Amen.

When Will We Ever Learn

When Will We Ever Learn

Today’s message was written by my friend, Rev. Roger Kunkel, founder of Dial Hope.

There is a strange sentence in one of the Psalms:

“I will keep a muzzle on my mouth.” (Psalm 39:1)

These are the words of someone sorely tempted to spread gloom, despair, and discouragement. Yet he held himself in check, knowing there was already enough pessimism in the world—and realizing he could choose to rally the courage of those who felt down and out.

That’s good advice. The world is longing for words of assurance and encouragement. When will we ever learn? People don’t want to be put down—they are crying out to be lifted up. The choice is ours: we can encourage, or we can discourage.

Isn’t it sad that so many people believe they’re divinely appointed to point out all that’s wrong—to underscore the negative? Isn’t it tragic that some choose to be gloom-spreaders instead of uplifters? It is so much more joyful to lift others up than to tear them down. Each of us has the power to make others feel better or worse. And most often, lifting others lifts us as well.

One of the great personalities in the early church was Barnabas. His name means “son of encouragement.” He was an encourager. He lived out the call from 1 Thessalonians 5:11:

“Therefore encourage one another and build up each other.”

Simply put, we need to be people who listen, who care, who affirm, who help, and who support one another. The choice is ours: we can encourage or discourage.

Let us pray: God of love, forgive us for marching to the beat of drummers other than You. May we resolve today to align our lives with Your plans and purposes. Transform our gloom, despair, discouragement, and negativity into encouragement and affirmation. Remind us to gossip the Gospel—good news, joy, and hope—because of Jesus Christ. Now, may You surprise us with grace in at least three or four places we never thought to look for it. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

The Basis of Our Faith

The Basis of Our Faith

Yesterday, we reflected on how some of us have been told—by parents, coaches, or friends—in subtle and not-so-subtle ways, “You’re not good enough. You’ll never measure up. You’re not worthy.” Those tapes run through our heads and affect our lives. They manifest not only as rejection or low self-esteem, or hesitance to get close to others… but also as a constant anxiety that pushes us to compare ourselves to others or prove our worth.

I have a good friend who is a pastor in another part of the country. He’s a working machine. He rarely takes a day off—working nearly 70 hours a week. His wife, who works in the corporate world, keeps the same schedule. They hardly see each other.

A few years ago, he told me he was so busy after Christmas that he couldn’t take a break. His family went on vacation without him. I asked, “Why don’t you take the vacation your church is offering?”

He replied, “I just can’t. They need me.”

I said, “Yeah, they need you not to burn out!”

Later in the conversation, he laughed and admitted, “I don’t know who I’m trying to impress.”

I remember in seminary we were introduced to the theologian Karl Barth. He wrote 13 volumes of Church Dogmatics, among many other hefty works—and his writing is so dense, I could spend an hour on just one paragraph.

Not too many years before his death, Barth was asked if he could summarize his theology. In all seriousness, he responded with the words of a beloved children’s song:

“Jesus loves me, this I know,
for the Bible tells me so.”

I find it beautiful that decades of research, writing, and deep thought led him to a simple but profound truth. This is the basis of our faith.

Once again, I share this beautiful passage from Isaiah:

“But now thus says the Lord, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine…
You are precious in my sight, and honored, and I love you…”

Let us pray: Gracious God, thank you for your love for us—a love that never ends. Help us to accept that love in the very deepest part of our being, that we may live and give out of that foundation. We ask in Jesus’ name. Amen.

A New Line of Code

A New Line of Code

A few weeks ago, I was listening to an interview with a former FBI hostage negotiator. He was fascinating—steeped in psychology and truly a student of human behavior. He was talking about what motivates people and said it’s as if everyone has two lines of code (like computer code) programmed deep inside them. Somebody said something to us when we were little kids—our “two lines of magic code.” That’s what really drives the direction we go. It has to do with how we view ourselves.

He went on to say, “I met a guy one time who was… well, he was a surprise to his family. They thought they were done having kids, and 10 years later, another one was on the way. Someone in that family used to love telling this guy he was a mistake—an accident…”

In contrast, I’m reminded of a beautiful passage in the book of Isaiah. Isaiah was writing to people living in exile in Babylon—far from home. Their homeland was in ruins; their temple destroyed. They felt forgotten, rejected, unworthy, and hopeless. And into that setting, God spoke through Isaiah:

“But now thus says the Lord,
he who created you, O Jacob,
he who formed you, O Israel:
Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;
I have called you by name, you are mine…
You are precious in my sight, and honored, and I love you…”

What’s that like? It’s like a new line of code.

Some of us have been told—by parents, coaches, or friends—in subtle and not-so-subtle ways, “You’re not good enough. You’ll never measure up. You’re not worthy.” And those messages play like tapes in our minds. They manifest in all kinds of ways: rejection, low self-esteem, fear of closeness… Sometimes it also shows up as a constant anxiety driving us to compare ourselves to others or prove we’re enough.

Today, I pray that you and I could accept a new line of code. God says to us:

“I have called you by name, you are mine… you are precious in my sight, and honored, and I love you…”

Let us pray: Gracious God, we thank you for your love for us—a love that you have promised will never end. Help us to accept that love in the very deepest part of our being, that we would live and give out of that foundation. We ask in Jesus’ name. Amen.

Loving Compassion

Loving Compassion

Today’s message was written by my friend, Rev. Roger Kunkel, founder of Dial Hope.

A great British preacher of a generation ago told the story of a young servant girl who had no formal education yet was deeply spiritual. She had a strong sense of compassion, a concern for people. When this minister visited her one day and asked how she spent her days, she said, “My work is very demanding, and I don’t get much time off, so I can’t serve the church as much as I would like. But I have come up with a plan that lets me do what I can,” “What is that?” asked the minister. She replied, “Well, I always take the daily paper to bed with me at night.” He was puzzled. “Tell me about that. I don’t understand.” “Well,” she said, “l read the page with the birth notices, and I pray for the babies that have been born; then I read the marriages, and I pray that they may be happy and true, and next I read the deaths, and I pray that God’s comfort may come to those sorrowing homes.” 

That young girl was not far from the Kingdom. Why? Because she had discovered the spirit of loving compassion. Loving compassion, Jesus called it the most significant sign of discipleship. In John’s Gospel, he said it like this: “l give you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples” (John 13:34-35). As deftly as a magnetic needle points to the north, so the heart of Jesus immediately zeroed in on the neediest person in the crowd. 

The poet put it this way: 
Love in your heart isn’t put there to stay; 
Love isn’t love till you give it away. 

Let us pray: God of love, you who have the whole world in your hands, we claim to be one nation, under you, and that you are the One in whom we trust. We are aware that you have called us to love you and one another, and we pray that you will remind us anew that love, to be love, must be expressed in action. Give us hearts of loving compassion. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Perspective

Perspective

There was a Dear Abby column that ran many years ago that struck me. The letter and response went like this:

Dear Abby,
Happiness is knowing that your parents won’t almost kill you if you come home a little late.
Happiness is having your own bedroom.
Happiness is having parents that trust you.
Happiness is getting the telephone call you’ve been praying for.
Happiness is getting good grades and having parents who don’t fight.
Happiness is knowing that you’re as well dressed as anybody.
Happiness is something I don’t have.
Signed, 15 and Unhappy

A few days later, the column carried this response:

Dear Abby,
Happiness is being able to walk.
Happiness is being able to talk.
Happiness is being able to see.
Happiness is being able to hear.
Unhappiness is reading a letter from a 15-year-old girl who can do all these things and still says she isn’t happy.
I can talk. I can see. I can hear. But I can’t walk.
Signed, Thirteen and Happy

So often, it is a matter of perspective, isn’t it? The truth is, we all have struggles. We all face challenges, experience failures, and wrestle with weaknesses. But at the same time, none of us have to look far to see that we are blessed beyond belief. I’m as guilty of forgetting that as anyone!

Dietrich Bonhoeffer once wrote, “In ordinary life, we hardly realize that we receive a great deal more than we give, and that it is only with gratitude that life becomes rich.”

Let us pray: God of Amazing Grace, open our hearts again to see the rich flow of blessings streaming into our lives. May we notice and appreciate even the simple gifts — food and sunshine; flowers and rain; the ability to give and to love. Move deep inside us until a wellspring of gratitude bubbles up and overflows into joy. We ask in Jesus’ name. Amen.